To study abroad, the overseas students are alone, coupled with strong cultural differences and impact, which inevitably leads to loneliness. The same language and habits often make international students form their own small circle abroad and comfort each other emotionally.
However, on the one hand, this kind of small group lacks the opportunity to practice language, and on the other hand, it blocks the channels of communication with native students. Since you are studying abroad, you should be mentally prepared to “endure hardship”, make extensive foreign classmates and friends, understand and be familiar with Chinese culture, and integrate into local social customs. This is a worthwhile trip. With the editor, let’s learn how international students get along with Chinese students.
How do international students get along with Chinese students?
Chinese people are very hospitable. However, most of them feel constrained or nervous when they meet strangers for various reasons. At this time, a sincere smile can instantly break the tension in the air.
When a foreigner who doesn’t smile appears in front of him, most Chinese will feel that he is unfriendly and may be more difficult to deal with.
Second: Respect each other and not violate personal privacy
Chinese people attach importance to etiquette. In general, do not enter personal space easily without invitation. Use more polite language in communication and don’t ask too many sensitive questions.
At the same time, in many Western immigrant countries, various nationalities and beliefs coexist, which must be paid special attention to.
Third: Communicate with people sincerely and naturally
Generally speaking, the Chinese are relatively simple and frank. So in the process of getting along, don’t be too formal and introverted. Even if the level of language is difficult to reach the level of free conversation, as long as supplemented by a variety of facial expressions and body language, we can certainly achieve the purpose of communication.
If you can’t get involved in their topic, you can bring them to your topic. Most of the time, it’s not that you don’t want to talk to them, but that you often don’t know and understand what they say. You can find an opportunity to talk about your own country, even your own home, when everyone is talking about a very interesting place, Tell them what’s interesting and what’s interesting. They will be very interested and willing to listen. Most Chinese students don’t know much about foreign countries, so you can rest assured that they will be very interested when you speak. Then, we should have activities with you. Don’t feel as if you are wasting time or what, If you need help with something difficult, you will know that you are isolated and helpless. Group activities can also help you to understand the local situation as soon as possible and get involved in the learning atmosphere. Students must be a little more confident of themselves, don’t take these too seriously, just smile more, take the initiative to say hello.
Fourth: Don’t impose on others what you don’t want to accept
From Confucius’ Analects of Confucius“ “Don’t do to others what you don’t want to do to yourself” is the earliest principle of Zhou rites, which is highly praised by Confucius, the founder of Confucianism. There is also such a teaching in the Western Bible that “you can treat others as you want them to treat you”, that is, when you ask others to do something, first of all, you are willing to do it yourself, or if you do it yourself, then you will feel at ease; Popular understanding is that if you can’t do it yourself, you can’t ask others to do it.
This principle should be adhered to in interpersonal communication, which is the embodiment of respecting others and treating others equally. In the world, we should not only pay attention to our own existence but also pay attention to the existence of others. People are equal. Don’t do what you don’t want to do to others.
Fifth: Shake hands when you first meet.
Hugs or face hugs are not recommended. Because the safety distance between people in Chinese daily life is far greater than that in some western countries. Most Chinese people are more reserved and introverted when they meet strangers. Although hugs and face-to-face gifts are very common friendly acts in the west, for most Chinese people, when they meet for the first time, they will feel pressure and embarrassment if they have such close contact without knowing each other. If it happens between the opposite sex, it will be even more embarrassing. Although I don’t like this, Chinese people generally don’t tell you directly. Because they don’t want to hurt your face. Therefore, when international students meet Chinese students for the first time, it is recommended to shake hands.
Sixth: We should take the initiative to increase contact opportunities
For example, every school will have students’ spontaneous interest activities, such as swimming, football, basketball, dance, and so on. The student union also organizes various tourism activities regularly. Students can participate in these activities according to their interests and hobbies, which promotes mutual exchange and cooperation and shortens the distance between them. In addition, actively participating in community activities can make new friends and learn more about local culture and customs.
Seventh: Keep your promise
In interpersonal communication, “words must be done and deeds must be fruitful” is the basic education that a person should have. When dealing with Chinese students, from dating time to a business contact, we should keep our word, keep our promise, and never make a wish casually.
What should be paid attention to?
Filial piety is the most important of all virtues! We should respect our parents and others’ parents. If they do something bad, they can criticize them, but even their parents will criticize them. It can be said that fuck you can’t say fuck you more.
Second: Don’t hurt people with vicious words
When the other party’s temper is on the verge of an outburst, it is necessary to temporarily avoid, so that the other party can not find the vent object, and gradually eliminate the fire. Avoidance does not mean “compromise” but gives the other party a chance to think calmly, and at the same time proves his self-cultivation.
Third: Timely communication to eliminate contradictions
Bad words are hard to avoid. The best thing is to sit down and have a calm communication before or after something happens, to eliminate the misunderstanding or contradiction between the two sides and avoid the occurrence of bad words.
Fourth: Don’t get angry
According to medicine, it is easy to hurt your liver and spleen when you are angry. The average life expectancy of people who are easy to get angry is significantly lower than that of normal people. They are more prone to aging and hurt each other’s harmony. Therefore, when things happen, we should think calmly, learn to “transpose” thinking, and calmly stand on the other side’s point of view.
Fifth: Don’t gossip
The practice of gossiping behind the scenes will not only hurt the friendship between friends or colleagues but also lead to the consequence of antagonism. At the same time, it also reflects the low character.
Getting along well with Chinese students not only means that you can make friends but also makes you have a pleasant experience of studying in China. We should take the initiative to dedicate our friendship instead of blindly seeking and waiting for others to send us friendship. I hope you will find your true friends as soon as possible.